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Weight loss

I have never liked the term, “Weight loss” for my clients. My only reason in using this is to allow the public to identify with common vocabulary.

The desire to lose weight suggests that something is wrong and bad. Many conventional methods to lose weight use judgment, shame and deprivation to push people to lose weight. I do not agree with that.

Instead of weight loss, I prefer to think of it as the gain of health and fitness. Focusing on what is wanted instead of what is not wanted is my strategy in dealing with all challenging issues.

Those of you who are familiar with Newton’s Laws of Motion will recall that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Push against weight, and you will get more weight. Push against junk food and you will get even more attached to it. I am not saying that releasing old thought patterns and habits are easy. But work should be focused on what is wanted instead of what is not wanted. Only then can effort become productive and the effects sustainable.

Release of unwanted habits

Nail-biting, hair-pulling, are just examples of habits that result from stressful situations. The act of carrying out something that is within the subject’s control appears to give the perception that there is security and predictability there.

While hypnotism has been successfully used to eradicate these unwanted habits, a good hypnotist should also help the client alleviate the underlying cause of these behaviors.

Removal of Irrational Fears

Sometimes referred to as phobias, irrational fears can take various forms. Some of the common ones are fear of snakes, heights, bridges, air travel, bugs, closed spaces, dental treatment etc.

To address your situation, you must first consider whether your fear is truly irrational. For example, someone who has been bitten by a dog and now becomes very worried about getting close to dogs is NOT having an irrational fear. A person who is afraid of getting into water because he is not a good swimmer is NOT having an irrational fear. These are responses that are natural and meant to help you with survival. Granted that they can be annoying and exaggerated at times, they are by no means irrational and should NEVER be removed using hypnotism.

An irrational fear is a fearful response to something that is normally considered quite harmless to most people. Becoming overly anxious to the point of becoming incapacitated while in a relatively safe situation, such as—suffering from a panic attack when seeing a snake safely enclosed in its glass tank at the zoo, frantically screaming and temporarily stunned upon seeing a beetle on a rose bush, refusing to see a dentist for much-needed treatment for no apparent reason—these would be considered irrational fears.

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Disclaimer:- Hypnotism is not meant to replace medical treatment or therapy. The author is not a healthcare provider. The ideas and opinions here are the author’s and do not represent that of any organization that the author was or has been affiliated with.

What are panic episodes? And how I eradicated them for good

I was unaware of the power of hypnotism in eradicating panic episodes until my own personal experience as related below:

A few years ago, I suffered from panic episodes but did not know what they were. I frequently got jolted up from my bed with a sense of extreme urgency, intense anxiety, thinking that I was about to die, but yet, I was physically fine.

Every time I experienced such an episode, my first impulse was, strangely, to call 911. I wanted to wake up everyone in the neighborhood or simply to cry “HELP!” My heart was palpitating. I felt nauseated. I was out of breath. I went around opening all the windows in my house on a cold winter night, feeling as if I was about to run out of air.

I had heard about panic episodes before but had no idea that this was how it felt like. I was in a not-so-good place in my life then, struggling with my relationship and my sense of direction in my career. Although I felt exasperated by the apparent hopelessness of my situation, I knew deep inside of me that this condition happened to me for a good reason. I decided that the Universe delivered this opportunity to me so that I could explore my skill and art in hypnotism so that I can help myself and others to manage these unwanted episodes.

(To find out what hypnosis is, click here.)

Fast forward to present day, years later, not only did I successfully and permanently eliminate my panic after a single self-hypnosis session, I have since helped my clients release themselves from panic situations that arise due to a variety of reasons, including fear of driving, exams, and social situations.

I consider my relationship with my client as a co-creative partnership. I go into these partnerships with an open mind, listening closely to what my client is going through, and formulating a solution by tapping into my training, my experience, and believe it or not, my art. I always believe that things happen for a reason and it is through the concept of allowing that I learn to embrace all people, things, and occurrences without judgment.

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Disclaimer:- Hypnotism is not meant to replace medical treatment or therapy. The author is not a healthcare provider. The ideas and opinions here are the author’s and do not represent that of any organization that the author was or has been affiliated with.

Hypnotherapy, Hypnotism, Self-Hypnosis (explained)

If you are looking for explanation to the question, “What is hypnosis?” click here.

Otherwise, continue to read this page. There are some terminologies that need clarification here.

How is self-hypnosis different than well…hypnosis? Is it better to consult a hypnotist or a hypnotherapist?

Hypnotist or Hypnotherapist?

First, let’s clarify the hypnotist and hypnotherapist confusion. What is the difference between the two?

To explain it simply, they are one and the same. Even though the use of exploring the subconscious mind to help people has occurred since the ancient times, the word “hypnotherapy” only became widely used in the mid 1900s when individuals trained in the field set up a profession to help people resolve common issues such as sleep difficulties, addictions, emotional problems etc.

As the field became more widespread in the past two decades, there arose the concern that “hypnotherapy” may become confused with other professions such as counseling, psychotherapy and other forms of medical therapy. Organizations for hypnotists such as the National Guild of Hypnotists then decided that hypnotists need to be distinguished more clearly from those other professions. “Hypnotism” is now the modern, more widely accepted term to describe the proud profession of practicing hypnotism on clients who seek self-improvement in various areas of their lives.

Some states have regulations that forbid hypnotists to call themselves “hypnotherapists”. In other states, both terms may be used interchangeably. Being compliant with the standards set by the Guild, I hereby happily and proudly call myself a hypnotist.

Self-hypnosis versus consulting a hypnotist

Now for the difference between practicing self-hypnosis versus consulting a hypnotist. What is the difference? Well, it’s kind of like asking, “What is the difference between working out on your own versus working out with a trainer?” They are both working out. If you don’t have some hard-to-achieve goal, and you don’t have major fitness issues, you could possibly manage it on your own. If you are highly skilled and trained, you could possibly be successful. But if you are struggling with a problem area, and if you need someone trained in the field to facilitate your success and to help you achieve your goals, then a trainer is the way to go. In any case, it’s the same body (yours) that is being worked on. It’s the same goal (yours) that is being achieved.

All hypnosis is self-hypnosis

The fact is: All hypnosis is self-hypnosis. The hypnotist is a highly trained and experienced person in the field who is there to facilitate the process of self-hypnosis, and thereby helping you achieve your goals. The following table summarizes the comparison between practicing self-hypnosis versus consulting a hypnotist:

Aspect

Self-Hypnosis

Consulting a hypnotist

Training Client is likely not trained in hypnotism Hypnotist has been trained in the field (look up their credentials and make sure that they are trained by a reputable organization such as the NGH)
Experience Client lacks experience in practicing self-hypnosis Hypnotist is experienced in working with clients of various personalities and issues
Focus Likely to fall asleep during the session Hypnotist can guide you to stay focused
Discipline Requires more discipline Hypnotist can help keep you on track
Achieving your Goal Too close to the problem Hypnotist provides a perspective as a bystanding observer
Addressing the problem objectively No one to sound out the issues to Hypnotist allows client to assess situation clearly and from an objective perspective
Cost Free of charge, making it seem trivial and unimportant Paying the hypnotist makes the client feel that the process is important and worthy

 

Being a trained hypnotist myself, I am my most frequent client. I practice self-hypnosis regularly on day-to-day issues like i) preparing myself for an important event ii) resolving some interpersonal conflict and iii) relaxation and de-stressing.

But even I consult a hypnotist from time to time, so that I can work on some difficult to resolve and recurrent issues that I am often blindsided by. Consulting a hypnotist is a very enjoyable event for me. I always feel listened to and well taken care of. I know that I am working with someone who has my welfare in mind. I always have some sort of revelation every time I consult a hypnotist. Something that makes a lot of sense to me but had always escaped me because I was too close to the problem to see it. By tapping into the subconscious mind in a safe and effective way, I am able to address the situation most productively.

In a nutshell, I would say that hypnosis changed my life for the better. The year that I went through the Certified Hypnotist training by NGH in 2008 was truly the turning point in my life. It opened up doors that I never knew existed.

Do you have any event that serves as a turning point in your life? Share your comments below.

© Chui Sien Chan 2016

How hypnosis saved my life

The first time I hypnotized myself deeply was about ten years ago, about a year before I received formal training by the National Guild of Hypnotists in 2007. Even though I did not know that I was undergoing hypnosis at that time, it certainly led me to the turning point in my life.
Hand-Foot-Mouth Disease

I had contracted a painfully debilitating and highly contagious disease, commonly known as the “hand-foot-mouth” disease (HFMD), caused by a strain of the Coxsackle virus. This disease became epidemic in Asia at various times, where the virus is particularly virulent. I was living and working in Singapore during that time, where I contracted it from my son, who had contracted it while at childcare. The HFMD is almost unheard of in the United States, which has been my permanent home for over twenty years.

In addition to experiencing malaise and flu-like symptoms for over a week, my throat and mouth were covered with painful blisters. My son recovered rapidly while under my care while my condition grew worse and worse rapidly as the days passed. I am sure everyone has ever had a couple of large blisters in their mouth before. Multiply that a hundred times in your throat, palate, and tongue. Imagine a sharp stabbing pain every time a trickle of saliva flows down your throat. Attempting to swallow liquids would be many times more painful. Swallowing solid food was impossible. Having experienced childbirth before did not make the pain of HFMD easier to bear.

There is no known drug that cures this disease. You simply ride it out, or not. While the virus usually strikes children, adults can also get it, in which case it tends to be a lot more severe. There are children who have died from complications associated with HFMD. These are probably individuals who have a weakened immune system. That was where I was in my life at that time, struggling with my marriage at home, my philosophy about work, and confused about my purpose in life in general. I was unhappy with my surroundings and did not have the knowledge or skills that I possess today to make my life better. I was sick regularly from colds and coughs, but this was something that I was unprepared for.

Preparing for Death

One night, more than a week into the illness, after not having eaten any food for days, and having prayed repeatedly to every God that I knew but to no avail, I asked the divine to take my life. If my life was meant to end this way, I was willing to let myself be taken. No, I am not a person who thinks about taking my own life but this had pushed me to the edge. Looking back, it seems like a cowardly thought. Not brave, not stoic. Not how I would normally identify myself to be. After all, I had survived measles, mumps, chicken pox, pneumonia, bronchitis, and a complicated childbirth. Surely I could pull through this?! But no. The more I tried to rationalize it, the more I tried to stay positive, the more unbearable my condition became. The incessant pain crumbled me, physically and emotionally. It never let up. I never fell asleep for more than ten minutes at a time for days on end. Every time a tiny drop of saliva were to trickle down my throat, I got jolted up by the stabbing pain. I could not talk, and was only able to drink sugar water to sustain myself.

Goodbye, my child…

I thought about my beloved son. How I had overcome various obstacles to raise an adorable, intellectually advanced, and perceptive person who has now become my buddy and soul-mate! A child who didn’t talk till he was three-and-a-half years old and who didn’t sleep through the night or much at all till he started talking. This child who counted to hundreds and did addition at one year of age on his own and who was thought by some so-called learning experts to be autistic. This child who wiped tears off my eyes when I was sad and took walks with me as we read the numbers of houses in sequence. Is this special and wonderful person about to lose a mother? He is the one person in my life I could safely say that I love unconditionally. I would not have exchanged him for anything in the world. Yet, here I was, the mother of this special person—I had decided to give up hope. Here I was, the mother of this gifted being—I had chosen to stop fighting. I felt like a failure. I felt like I had failed my most beloved person. But I felt like dying anyway.

(Nowadays, I am very sympathetic towards people who are going through pain in terminal illnesses. Don’t judge them if they tell you that they are in so much pain that they don’t feel like living anymore. You have no idea what they are going through unless you have gone through it yourself.)

My first deep, deep hypnosis

Ironically, it was this sense of wanting to die that kept me alive. Do you know that popular song by Carrie Underwood, “Jesus take the Wheel”? Sometimes the best thing to do when all else fails is to let go. Let go of the fight. Let go of the struggle. Be prepared to accept what is meant to be for you at this time.

The moment I said to the Universe that I was prepared to leave the living world, I felt a wave of indescribable sensation spreading through me, from the head down. It felt as if a heavy weight was lifted off of my head region almost instantaneously. Within seconds, at least 50% of my pain had gone away. I reveled in the sensation of lightness and let it continue to develop into more of the same. I felt my mind suddenly become very clear, very aware. It felt like I was being teleported into another world, another dimension. I felt free, I felt painless!

At that time, being the trained scientist and born philosopher, I could not help becoming curiously fascinated by what was happening to my body, even while I was still in the trance state. Wow! This is probably as close as I could get to what people call ‘miracle’. It was an incredible feeling. It was something remarkably opposite to what I was experiencing just seconds ago. From excruciating pain to painlessness and healing. From feelings of immense struggle to feelings of lightness and freedom. How, if all that I was taught in human physiology and anatomy was indeed true, is it possible for someone’s pain that is caused by an actual viral pathogen to suddenly become eliminated without any medical treatment whatsoever?

Chickening out

I started to heal rapidly after that accidental hypnosis session. After two weeks of suffering, I was back at work, which appeared to worsen my symptoms a little. I recalled that I had made a pact with myself that if I were to get well from HFMD, I would quit this job, work on improving my marriage and focus on my own well-being. But then, I chickened out. I chose to do what others expected of me instead of what my inner being told me to do.

I continued to go to work, and continued to get sick frequently, with conditions ranging from bronchitis to bad colds. Even though I knew that my frequent illnesses had a lot to do with my unhappiness, I was not fully convinced that improving my state of mind could transform my health for the better. I chose not to think about the painful details of my close shave with death when I contracted HFMD. Also, I never thought about the miracle healing of that night with the accidental hypnosis again. Nevertheless, I know that this accidental hypnosis must have been at the back of my mind because of the serendipity of what happened afterwards.

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Reacquainted with an old friend, self-hypnosis

For almost a year afterwards, I continued to plough through the struggles of my life without addressing the issues with intent. Then, one day, as I became increasingly displeased with the after-school care that my first grade son was receiving, I finally made a decision to leave my job.

While at home in the afternoon, I flipped through the newspapers and came across an advertisement that I simply could not resist. It was a workshop by the National Guild of Hypnotists. Somehow, I made myself go for the information session even though I was quite nervous about what to expect. One thing led to another and I signed up for the training to become a Certified Hypnotherapist. When I got hypnotized by the instructor for the first time, I became reacquainted with an old ‘friend’. I realized that I had unknowingly hypnotized myself during my HFMD episode at the moment of desperateness. It was self-hypnosis! I didn’t know what it was and what it was called but now I know. I know how to practice it, over and over again, with better skills, and better self-awareness. I had a strong desire to find out what had happened to me during my HFMD but the incident was forgotten from my conscious awareness soon after the illness. However, the desire remained in my subconscious mind and helped me to seek the truth. This desire had magically led me to the ad in the papers that in turn gave me what I wanted and needed—a course in hypnotherapy that changed my life forever.

Hypnosis opened doors for me that I never knew existed:

Disclaimer:- The content presented on this website is not meant to replace medical treatment or professional counseling. The author is not a healthcare provider. The ideas and opinions here are solely that of the author’s and do not represent that of any organization that the author was or has been affiliated with.

© 2016 Chui Sien Chan

Have you experienced a painful struggle that led to a positive change in your life?

Have you encountered serendipitous events that led you to something that you had always wanted but never sought out consciously?

Have you ever experienced an “accidental” self-hypnosis that brought about miraculous healing?

I would love for you to share your experiences with me in the form of comments below.